No

ByThe Dude
“A ‘No’ uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a ‘Yes’ merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble.”
~ Attributed to Mahatma Gandhi ~

How many times did you say yes today before your feet hit the floor? Accept all cookies. Agree to terms. Yes, I’m still watching.

Most of those yeses weren’t decisions…they were reflexes. Nobody stopped to ask whether they actually wanted any of it.

A real no takes about one breath. You check in, you feel it out, and if it’s not what you want, you say so. No essay. No apology.

The Dude 🐸

Thought for the Day
Take one breath before you say yes. Your no is worth more than a reflex.

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